Partners of Pro Dommes

A collection of intimate conversations with the partners of women who work as professional dominatrices.

The book Partners of Pro Dommes offers a rare and thoughtful look at the lived experience of folks who are in a relationship with a pro Femdom. Centered entirely on their voices, it explores what it means to love, support, question, and grow alongside someone whose work sits outside conventional expectations—what these partners cherish, what they struggle with, and how their relationships are shaped, tested, and sustained over time.

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Synopsis

Partners of Pro Dommes is a collection of twelve intimate, long-form interviews with the partners of professional dominatrices—voices that are rarely heard in discussions of sex work, intimacy, and modern relationships. Emme Roseloux and Ruby Fella sat down with these partners to talk in depth about their lives and their relationships, allowing each person to tell their story in their own words.Through candid conversations, these partners speak about what it means to share a life with someone whose work challenges conventional ideas about sexuality, monogamy, privacy, and power. Some describe relationships grounded in stability, routine, and mutual respect; others recount moments of strain, rupture, and renegotiation. Across differences in age, class, sexual identity, and relationship structure, a common thread emerges: there is no script for how to do this, no shared cultural language, and few spaces where these experiences can be named.The book grew out of a personal turning point in Emme’s own relationship, when the boundaries between her pro Domme work and her personal life blurred in ways that destabilized the relationship with her life partner. Confronted with how little support or visibility existed for him, Emme and Ruby Fella decided to write this book to share his experience and that of other partners like him.This collection of interviews can serve as a resource for partners, couples, families, academics, therapists–and all those associated with the sex work community. At its heart, this book was born out of the love the author holds for her partner and for all those who share their lives with women who do this work. It is a quiet love letter to them: an offering meant to acknowledge their experience, honor their resilience, and remind them that they are not alone.

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Authors & publishing

Emme Roseloux

Emme Roseloux has over a decade of experience as a professional Femdom in the US and in Europe. Her pro Domme name is not revealed in this book to protect her practice. She splits her professional time between her in-person BDSM sessions and a career in the healthcare field. She is an avid dancer and currently lives in California with her partner of 12 years, to whom she dedicates this book.

Ruby Fella

Ruby has worked over two decades as a Sexological Bodyworker, Sex Educator and Sex Work Advocate. Emme's close friend and collaborator for the past 2 decades, he offered his support and expertise to bring Partners of Pro Dommes to life. He lives in California with his partner. Like Emme, Ruby is using an alias to wirte this book.

_{Emme Roseloux and Ruby Fella are pen names we use for safety and privacy reasons. Neither of us will provide links to our work outside of this book to protect our respective practices, as well as the privacy of all those we interviewed for the book. Unfortunately, sex-work being criminalized, we found it best to keep our identities private.}

Publishing

Authors are currently in the final stages of preparing the manuscript and engaging with interested publishers. Anticipated launch is late 2026.

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