Listening to the Partners of Pro Dommes

Intimate conversations with the partners of professional dominatrices

Listening to the Partners of Pro-Dommes is a work of narrative nonfiction built from a perspective almost entirely absent from public conversations about sex work: that of the men who love the women doing it. Through the first-person accounts of ten men and one nonbinary partner of professional dominatrices, the book asks a deceptively simple set of questions. What is it like to build a life, and a lasting relationship, with a woman whose profession is domination? Where are the joys? Where are the strains? How did these men arrive here, and how do they stay?

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Marie Pelleroux

Marie Pelleroux began working as a professional dominatrix twenty years ago and has practiced, in two long stretches, for more than a decade of that time. She is also a licensed healthcare practitioner, and her clinical work involves caring for sex workers and members of the kink and LGBTQIA+ communities. Listening to the Partners of Pro-Dommes began in her own long-term relationship. Her partner is one of the eleven. She recruited the participants, most of whom she had never met, referred by people in these communities who trusted her enough to vouch. She conducted ten of the eleven interviews, speaking with these men not as a curious outsider but as one of the women they were describing. She led the development of the manuscript, and her own experience appears throughout the book.

Ruby Fella

Ruby Fella is a queer sex educator and certified sexological bodyworker. He earned his certification twenty years ago and has practiced ever since. Much of his other work has been done under other people's names: advising education collectives, collaborating with sex educators on their teaching, and writing for the platforms of a well-known figure in the field. He supports organizations engaged in sex worker advocacy. For this project, he conducted the eleventh interview — with Marie Pelleroux's partner, the conversation she could not have had herself. He edited and developed the manuscript alongside her.

_{Marie Pelleroux and Ruby Fella are pseudonyms used for privacy and safety. We are not linking to our work outside this project in order to protect our respective practices and the privacy of those interviewed for the book.}

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The manuscript is complete and ready for publication consideration.

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